1. I was 34, with few skills, 3 young children, and just finalizing a divorce, when I was discussing what to do with my future. My friend suggested that I return to school, possibly to study my new found passion for geology. My response was, “yeah, but I’ll be 40 by the time I graduate.” Her life changing response; You’ll be 40 anyway.”
Now I am 42, and 3 semesters away from completing my 3rd (and last) degree.
2. “Dоn’t ever make fun of some who speaks brоken English, it means they speak аnother language.”
3. As a teenager I started pouting after a coach yelled at me. He looked at me said “the time to worry is when I quit yelling at you because that means I’ve decided you’re not worth the effort”.
4. My crazy German hippie Godfather once sat me down when I was an angsty self destructing teen and said “look, kate, I love you and I will always, always be here to help you pick up the pieces- but jesus fuck does there need to be so many pieces?”
5. “If you want to be good at something you first must be willing to be bad at it.”
My guitar teacher said this to me after I expressed that I felt like giving up because I wasn’t making the progress I thought I should be making.
It made a lot of sense to me and it helps motivate me whenever I attempt something new.
6. “It doesn’t take talent to practice.”
7. “Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but when we look back everything is different…” – C.S Lewis
8. “Never make fun of how someone laughs or soon you won’t hear them laugh at all”
I experienced this at my old job. There was a woman who had a funny-sounding laugh, and we all use to imitate it. It was actually a very endearing quality and added a lot of life to the environment, but it made her self-conscious and she stopped laughing almost altogether. I always hated that that happened.
9. “You are far more worried about what you say and do than anyone else is.”
10. After my wife left me I had an older coworker tell me something like this:
“Nothing I can say to you is going to make things easier or help you get through this, but just know that I am here to listen if you decide you would like to talk.”
I was so weighed down with friends and family who loved me giving me unsolicited advice when all I needed was someone who respected me enough to just listen. I always take this approach with people who are going through hard times. If you truly care about them just listen, eventually they will ask you for advice.
11. “The only time you look in your neighbor’s bowl is to make sure that they have enough. You don’t look in your neighbor’s bowl to see if you have as much as them.”
12. If you don’t have time to do it right, you must have time to do it over.
13. “Everyone is the main character of their life.”
Now I stop and think whenever someone is being self absorbed. It’s just they’re excited over something that happened in their life because that’s what’s most important to them.
14. My wife was the the first person to tell me that holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
It gets attributed to a number of people who probably didn’t say it, but it really hit home when she was the one who told me.
15. I was in McDonalds with my Dad when I was around 10 year old. I remember him asking me to take the tray to the bin at the end and I said “that’s their jobs, someone else will do it.” My Dad said “someday you may have to do a job you don’t particularly like and that other people could make easier or more difficult for you, you’ll wish they made it easier.”
16. My old biology teacher told me “Don’t judge a book by its cover, but be careful about the library it’s in”.
Basically a good judge of character is the people the other person hangs out with. Still get to know them, hence the “don’t judge a book by its cover” bit, but at the same time watch out for the social habits they have. If they hang around shitty people and do shitty things maybe they aren’t the best fit for you
17. ‘Whatever crawls up his ass won’t give me a bellyache’…my grandad. Allows me to distance myself from other people’s drama.
18 “Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.”
People aren’t mean, they’re dumb, approach a situation from that angle and you’re a lot less defensive, a lot more capable of understanding.
19. I don’t remember it verbatim, but it was something along the lines of how parents raise good children but should instead be raising good adults. The thought blew my mind and really got me thinking.
Let kids be kids. Let them screw up occasionally and let them be sad every now and then. They’re only preparing themselves for the real world and will be ready to face it when the time comes. Most parents do a great job raising good children and when those kids grow up, they’re clueless how to handle real world problems.
20. “Do you feel victory when your words cause pain?”
I grew up in an abusive environment and I left it but it took years for me to leave the actions I’d learned behind as well. I wasn’t a good person because I had no example. Being a good person is all I want to be.
21. “We judge ourselves by our intentions but others by their actions”
This put a lot of things into perspective for me.