Going on a date is always nerve-wracking. But it’s even more nerve-wracking when your date is a literal stranger from the internet.
Will he look like his pictures? Will the chemistry you had on the app messenger system translate to real life? Is he actually going to be a serial killer?
It’s challenging to know how to start an IRL conversation with someone you only know from your iPhone screen and whatever else you saw when you stalked his LinkedIn and Facebook. (Yeah, yeah, don’t even try to deny it. We all do it.)
But on every Tinder date I’ve ever gone on, I think I’ve known within five minutes if I am actually interested in staying, or if I’m gonna go in the bathroom and text my friend to ask her to call me about an “emergency.” In other words, first impressions are CRUCIAL.
So, if you have literally no idea what to say to your Tinder date when you first arrive at the bar, restaurant or wherever you’re meeting, here are a few options to get the ball rolling:
1. “Tell me about your day so far.”
Asking someone to detail their day to you will provide many entryways for conversation. This is a good alternative to the go-to of “How’s your day?” which has the potential to be a one-word answer, and you want to avoid those.
The other alternative, “How are you?” always strikes me as bizarre, since you don’t really know each other well enough to be concerned about each other’s, like, emotional well-being.